This is Personal
I know what you’re thinking, Marvin and Sharisse, you are in your 50s and standing at the top of the minority relationship mountain with 30+ years under your belt, looking down at us singles who are struggling to get our footing or are so frustrated that we have stopped climbing. How can you relate? Yes, but this book is personal to us because we have a son and daughter in their 20s who are single, and we've seen the pain of incompatible breakups and the frustration of internet ghost chases. Just a few months ago, I had consoled my daughter who was in tears when out of the blue she was dumped after 6 months of dating with no explanation. The struggles they face—whether it be dealing with societal expectations, navigating cultural differences, gender stereotypes, or simply finding someone with shared interests—have molded our understanding of love and connection in these diverse contexts. Each experience they have shared with us highlights the need for honest conversations about dating in today's world. This series was born out of a desire to provide support and guidance, not only for them but for others encountering similar challenges in their search for meaningful relationships. Sharisse and I want everyone to find Help, Healing, Hope, and their Holistic (Complete) Partner. Our son and daughter are major contributors to this dating series, and Segovia writes and shares her dating experiences in this series.
Ready to find a love that completes you—not competes with or depletes you?
Mixed to Match Dating Series: 2 Cultures, 1 Love — Book Three is your guide to building a healthy, lasting relationship from the inside out—designed especially for minority and interracial singles seeking more than another situationship. Drawing from decades of personal experience and professional counseling, Marvin and Sharisse Lucas take you on a journey that blends self-discovery, cultural insight, and practical dating wisdom.
From understanding your holistic self to spotting red flags, from breaking free of rebound cycles to setting healthy boundaries, this book offers a roadmap for emotional maturity, authentic connection, and intentional dating. You’ll explore how history, culture, and personal experiences shape your love life—and learn how to rewrite the patterns that no longer serve you.
What you’ll discover inside:
Real Self-Talk: Strengthen your mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being before you date.
Vetting with Clarity: Identify red flags, selfish vibes, and fatal optimism before they derail your happiness.
Mindful Connection: Move from casual encounters to meaningful intimacy—without losing yourself in the process.
Baggage Check: Navigate age gaps, long-distance love, divorced partners, and dating someone with children.
Action Notes: Guided self-reflection prompts to help you apply each chapter to your own dating life.
Extra Resources: 175 free/cheap date ideas, a dating progress evaluation, and recommended tools for ongoing growth.
Whether you’re healing from heartbreak, re-entering the dating scene, or simply wanting to date with more purpose, Mixed to Match Book Three equips you to attract—and be—the holistic partner you deserve.