What to Expect
Welcome to the Mixed to Match (M2M) Series. What should you expect?
First, start with the two books. The M2M book starts the Soul Work conversation, and the M2M Workbook has specific homework for you and your partner. It has a couple
contract that, when followed, can help with commitment and consistency. The
Rules of Engagement (ROE) are 17 key steps for rational communication in your
weekly, in-person meetings. The ROE will help you and your partner with sensitive topics. These include addiction, intimacy, grief, prioritizing, conflict, infidelity, and forgiveness. Both books have cultural and gender consideration material.
The Mixed to Match Books
Below you will see 3 videos. These videos will help you to prepare to have healthy expectations for the book and workbook. First, watch the “Intro and Week One” video which will help you have the right mindset before reading the books. After reading chapter 4 on Holistic Relationship, watch the Summary 1-5 video. Then after chapter 8 (True Forgiveness) watch the third video (Chapters 9-25).
Intro to week 1-5
Week 1-5 Summary (Marvin)
Intro to Chapters 9-25 (Marvin)
Videos
The Lucas’ have made 20 personal couple videos. In them, they share some of the struggles they have experienced during
their 30+ year relationship. Marvin and Sharisse get vulnerable about their addictions and infidelity. They also discuss their conflicts and how they overcame them. There are additional weekly videos called Soul Notes, where Marvin gives more insight into the M2M homework and how to navigate sensitive subjects in your face-to-face times. These videos are good for those who have trouble with confrontation and expressing their feelings clearly. Below is a sample couple video of what to expect if you decide to purchase the Connect, Restore or Elevate Package. Please Note: Not all the videos have subtitles.
Bi-weekly Live Group Mentorship (5 Sessions)
In the Elevate Package: This includes Bi-weekly group sessions with the Lucas’. The Lucas’ will provide a discussion point which will help to facilitate group discussion. In addition, the Lucas’ will answer specific questions that the couples have submitted through info@mixed2match.net. These sessions will be 50-60 minutes. If couples are interested in having individual mentorship with the Lucas’, please follow the instructions on our Home page.
Book Objective
The objective of the first five weeks:
• Self-Care
• Start Looking at Your Partner Differently
• Learn Active Listening
• Spend Quality Time
• Embrace Cultural and Gender Differences
• Handle Conflict Healthily
• Commit to the Process
After the first five weeks, you and your partner will choose from the remaining 17 chapters what will be most applicable for your relational needs.
What Is Soul Work?
The subtitle of this book is Soul Work for Interracial and Minority Couples.
Soul work goes beyond words. It’s an emotional, mental, and spiritual connection beyond the physical. It is dealing with pain to the point of surrender. It’s the courage to be open when no words can explain your actions. It’s making changes without being told to. If you purchase the VIP package, you will receive 25 “Soul Note” videos to help your relationship.
S.O.U.L. WORK
S - Sincere (Humility and willingness to change)
O - Open (Courage to be honest and heal)
U - Understanding (Upbringing/Cultural patience)
L - Laughter (Court each other/Realign priorities)
In the first few weeks, you will need a great deal of patience to view your partner from a new perspective. You may not trust your partner right now, but please trust the process. By doing the soul work, you might eventually see your soulmate!
“A soulmate is not found. A soulmate is recognized.”
– Vironika Tugaleva
Book Chapters and Videos in Mixed to Match Series
• Personal Inventory
• Communication
• Childhood Reflections
• Cultural/ Gender Differences
• Holistic Relationship
• The Secret Sauce
• True Forgiveness
• Health/Disabilities
• Unhealthy Influences/priority
• Mental Health
• Affairs and Emotional Affairs
• Addiction (Social Media, Weed, Porn, Alcohol etc.….)
• Materialism
• All Business with a little Love
• ED and Sexual Desire
• Weight Gain
• To Debt do us Part
• History of Childhood Abuse
• Grief
• Hormonal Challenges
• Abusive Relationship
• Intimacy
• In-Laws