Are you tired of ghosting, surface-level swiping, and endless “situationships” that leave you feeling unseen? This complete guide brings together three powerful volumes designed for singles—especially interracial and minority individuals—who are ready to move beyond frustration and into intentional, lasting love.
Drawing from lived experiences, heartfelt stories, and cultural insights, this series helps you break free from myths, confront hidden biases, and build the kind of self-confidence and clarity that make healthy relationships possible. You’ll find encouragement, practical steps, and real talk about what it takes to thrive in today’s dating world.
Inside, you’ll discover:
Why cultural differences and minority experiences reshape modern dating.
How to tell if you’re truly relationship ready (and how to get there).
Tools to strengthen your self-worth, confidence, and communication.
Step-by-step guidance on navigating first dates, digital connections, and long-term vision-building.
Stories, reflections, and exercises that help you stay true to your values while keeping an open heart.
Whether you’re healing from past breakups, navigating cultural dynamics, or simply longing for more than another app match, this three-in-one collection offers Help, Healing, Hope, and a path toward your Holistic (Complete) Partner.
Book One – Help in Being Relationship Ready
Introduction: What are you? Where are you from? Are you mixed?, Our Multicultural Worldview, The Realities of Minority Dating, This is Personal, Book One Overview
Relationship Ready Evaluation
Part I: Perspective and Boundaries
Chapter 1: The Blue Pill or Red Pill?
Chapter 2: Losing Yourself in the “Fire”!
Part II: I Matter
Chapter 3: I’m My Best Friend
Chapter 4: I’m a “Baddie” (Attractive)
Chapter 5: I’m Self-Care
Chapter 6: I’m Interesting
Chapter 7: I’m Here (Listening)
Chapter 8: I’m Keepin’ It Real
Chapter 9: I’m Mindful (Self & Your Date)
Chapter 10: I’m Smiling (Glowed Up)
Part III: Intentional Dating
Chapter 11: Slide Into the DMs: The Art of Digital First Impressions
Chapter 12: 1st and 2nd Date (Keep it Fun – Smile)
Chapter 13: Intentionally Vibing: 1–3 Months
Chapter 14: Leveling Up for the Future (Work on Your Character)
Appendix I: Relationship Ready Retake
Book Two – Finding Healing and Hope
Overview: Generational and Cultural Dating, My Healing, My Hope, Connecting Beyond the Clicks, New Ways to Date
Relational Inventory Evaluation
Part IV: History and the Culture of Dating for Minorities
Chapter 1: Dating Through the Ages: From Letters to Likes
Chapter 2: Three Generations of Minority and Interracial Dating (stories from the 60s–80s and Segovia’s perspective)
Part V: My Healing & My History
Chapter 3: My Childhood and Dating
Chapter 4: What to Learn About My Dating History?
Chapter 5: Steps to Healing
Part VI: My Hope (New Vetting Tools)
Chapter 6: Before Dating Again, Set the Vibe!
Chapter 7: Start Loving in Increments
Chapter 8: Chill: Time Don’t Lie!
Chapter 9: Stand Your Ground: Know Your Must-Haves
Part VII: Connecting Beyond the Click
Chapter 10: The Swiping My Life Away
Chapter 11: The Myth of Friends with Benefits
Part VIII: Take a Different Path to Intimacy
Chapter 12: A Whole New Vibe Check! (A Holistic Approach)
Chapter 13: Is Purity Maturity?
Chapter 14: Old-School Dating
Appendix II: Retake the Relational Inventory
Book Three – Finding Your Holistic Partner
Introduction & Overview: Real Self-Talk, Vetting My Date, Swipe Right for Meaning!, Baggage Check
Part IX: Real Self-Talk (Emotional Maturity)
Chapter 1: My Holistic Self—Preparing Myself for a New Dating Journey
Chapter 2: Self-Discovery and Emotional Maturity
Chapter 3: On the Rebound
Chapter 4: I’m Still in My Feelings About My Ex, but I Have to Move On!
Part X: Finding a Holistic Partner
Chapter 5: How Can I Tell the Difference Between Red Flags and Green Lights?
Chapter 6: Selfish Vibes and Emotional Immaturity
Chapter 7: The Sex is Smashing, But………!
Chapter 8: The Unspoken
Chapter 9: Fatal Optimism
Chapter 10: It’s Just Sex!
Chapter 11: Trauma Sign (Hurt/Abuse)
Part XI: Quench the Thirst!
Chapter 12: Tinder to Tender
Chapter 13: Body Count to Somebody Who Counts (I Care for)
Part XII: Baggage Check!
Chapter 14: Is My Partner Playing Me? (Cheating)
Chapter 15: Long-Distance Dating
Chapter 16: Age and Quirks
Chapter 17: Dating a Divorced Person
Chapter 18: Dating Someone with Children
Chapter 19: Reflection: Help, Heal, Hope, and Holism
Appendices III–VIII:
Dating Progress Evaluation
Free/Cheap Dates & Gifts
Work on Your Character
Holistic Self-Care (sleep, nutrition, mindfulness, spirituality, counseling)
Why Try Counseling?
Additional Mixed2Match.net Resources
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